Stupendous Mom or Inadequate Mom?? Part II

Awhile back I was contemplating this topic of being a super stupendous mom who does it all or an inadequate mom who doesn't seem to get it right.

Read it for yourself: http://katshel.blogspot.com/2013/03/stupendous-mom-or-inadequate-mom.html

I feel like that ALL the time. This tug-of-war of what is good and not, and why. I just watched, "Parental Guidance" with Billy Crystal and Bette Midler. http://www.parentalguidancemovie.com/ What awesome grandparents! I hope I can be like that someday, but even they struggle with this tug of war. I don't think I am alone in this struggle. To work, or not to work. To say "no" or to "think of the consequences". To get a "village" or to "Lone Ranger" parenting.

When I am honest with myself and with my parents, I didn't like how my parents did everything. I don't think they liked everything they did, or while we are at it, what I did. Parenting is the HARDEST job ever. We are Skill Transfering, Mentoring, Correcting, Loving, Passionate, Impulsive, and do the best we can with what we have.

I love it when Joyce Meyer says, 'If ask someone for a glass of water, if they have water they will gladly give it to you, but what if they don't have a glass or water. They can't give you what they don't have.'

If you are out there and you wondering to yourself, like I am, "Self, Am I a good Mom?" they answer is "YES". Why?? Because we are asking the question. We are doing EVERYTHING we know how to do to keep our kids Safe, Happy, Healthy, Educated, Loved, and Skilled so they can lead the next generation and so on.

Matthew 6:34 "Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day had enough troubles of its own."

Have you felt like this, when you compare yourself to others? I know I do. That  is why the Bible say, 'Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else.' Galatians 6:4 But before this verse Paul says, 'Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.' Galatians 6:2

So when you see a mom who has it all together, instead of asking if she can do more, ask why. Ask if you can make her family a dinner for the evening, or come over and fold laundry with her. Ask her if she felt completely inadequate, or completely stupendous, before you put her on a pedestal of perfection. I know I need that some days when my 9 year old has been disappointed all day, and my son just wants to be held and it was the first time I had sat down after a busy day. Or when the mountain of laundry covers my whole King size bed and the mountain has been sorted and folded and put away Every Night of the Week.

I say this not only to you, but mostly to myself. I am a stupendous mom, because I care so much about being one! Because I LOVE my kids and husband soooo much.  Because I try, and when I fail, I try again and again. Because when the going gets tough I turn to what God says about my job.That "I can do everything through him who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13 and in Proverbs 31:10-31 A wife of Noble Character that when I am in Him, "Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:" It is funny, but perfection is never mentioned in that Epilogue.