Lessons of Wife-ing

R E S P E C T.

Let him do what he loves. Sports of any kind~enjoy your time alone cause there will always be a time when playing isn't an option. Work~let him be your provider and feel the love he has for you. Boy Time~drinking, movies, hanging out, games; he will need those boyfriends just as much as you need your girlfriends.

Never say 'I told you so.' Even when you are right and you both know it. Just let him get away with his revelation that the idea was his when it was actually yours. Let him believe that you really didn't understand~when you really did. At the end of the day it doesn't really matter who was right and who was wrong as long as you are both happy and love each other still.

There is never enough tools. Men need tools, all kinds of tools! Christmas, birthday, wedding, just because get him a tool. The more expensive the tool the more he will do. Shhh the secret is that you want him to have tools so that he will do more around the house.

Build him up. I get my strength and self-esteem from my husband, but guess what...he gets his from you as his wife! A friend once said to me, "No one went to Gay Pride Parade alone." When you are alone, you are crazy....when you are in a parade well lets just say there is a reason we vote. No one was elected on One Vote. You need him to back you up, just as much as he needs you to back him up. Marriage is a Mirror to our selfishness, and it was designed that way!

You don't have to do all the work ladies! My dad taught me how to take out the trash, and use a screw driver.

It is his idea...it will be done. There is a trick (manipulation) that I was told I had to master to be a good wife. How do you do that? How do you teach how to do that? You don't. You make suggestions. You pray, You seek the Lord. If God wants you to have it, you will have it. Proverbs 3: 5-6

You are not his God. You have your own lessons throughout your journey together. Some lessons you can learn together, but most are individual lessons. Don't be the naggy wife who is after him about every little thing. No one gets away with anything...and eventually he will learn his lesson. You don't have to be the one to teach it to him.

GRACE is the most loving gift you can give your man! "It has been defined as the divine influence which operates in humans to regenerate and sanctify, to inspire virtuous impulses, and to impart strength to endure trial and resist temptation." I like to think of it as overlooking all the stupid stuff that drives you mad.

If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Just sit by your man...you don't have to fix or talk...just sit there. Amazing things happen.

Sometimes dying to self over and over is worth it in the end. It sucks, it hurts, and it is never fun, but always needed. What does that mean? I am still figuring it out, but I think today I would define it as killing your expectations of how you think it should go cause once and a while a great day happens!

Even if you do everything right, you may still do it in the wrong way for the wrong person.