Potty Training...and more learning!

I tried to blog on my phone today, but apparently it doesn't work like that.

This weekend was full on Potty Training for little Man! He is doing so great. this is technically the end of day 4 and he only made one mistake today!

I got a great tip from a lady at work who said, just make him earn his pants! So that is what he did. Little Man hates being naked, and really particular about his clothes. I took his pants off Sat morning and he had to earn em back by going potty in the toilet. It  was a long day of reminders and prompts, treats, lots of laundry, but by the end of Sunday he had pretty much got it!

I am one Proud Mama!!!

With this last weeks lesson I have more questions than answers. 

Kitty seems to think this is a good thing, but as I ask one question another pops up over and over again. 

I had a great conversation with mom this week and I think healing for both of us. Trusting God for answers as each day comes and goes. 

What does 2 Peter 2: 10-21 mean to you?

The First Lesson

I started the class on Tuesday 4/16 and did the homework Thursday. Then cried for the afternoon. Went to Yoga that evening...Fell asleep while playing SIM City...that has never happened before. Did the rest of my homework this morning and cried for the day off and on.

So what happened?? God! This is what I am taking right now: http://www.thelearntoletgoandgrowworkshops.com/About-Us.html

Lesson 1; Beginning, your launch into life.

Please see: http://katshel.blogspot.com/2013/01/my-sister.html

That happened when I was 5. I haven't gone to visit my sister's grave yet since 1999 and for some reason the year this happened didn't seem to matter till now. I have been guessing, not wanting to talk to my parents.   When I talk to my parents about it, I feel like I end up counseling them, still at 34 I feel like more of an adult than my parents.

I just sent a request to get the public records for the time to help me fill in the blanks-never done that before.

Throughout my life I have seen psychiatrists, counselors, psychologists, pastors , ect. without answers. This week, I have answers and words. I was able to put words to my 5/6 year old fears. Such as the fear my parents were responsible, the fear that my dad wouldn't believe me when I went to tell him. The fear of his reaction, as I had already learned that you don't wake up dad. Fear that I would be held responsible. Fear that I wasn't safe. Because if that happened to my sister,  what would happen to me?

I also realized that I was in a position at work where I was continuously being emotionally triggered from what happened to me when I was 5. Normal people don't have issues with their work like I was having...why? Well it speaks to my fears...that all seem silly to go into right now.

So how do you do this and be a mom, wife, employee, leader at church, and Girl Scout leader? Lots and Lots of prayer. Crying at my desk listening to Ocean by Bebo Norman, literally All Day at work. But, really and honestly nothing special. Just taking one minute, one day, one week one at a time.

I am learning that healing doesn't come all at once and takes as long as it needs to. This all came to light Nov 2009, and I am scratching the surface.

Stay tuned for Lessons 2 & 3!

More on Prayer...

This week my goal is to get my son to recognize I am his momma. I worked mad hours the last two weeks, and I think he is mad I haven't been around. Calls me daddy or bestamore, or tonight it was Mamma Mia, I think, just to get my goat.

In the mean-time, lets talk about Prayers. What is your prayer-life like??

Read Matthew 6:9-13 and just focus on the first part of the Lord's Prayer. After all Jesus is the ultimate teacher of prayer. For now focus on the first verse (9).

"This, then, is how you should pray:

“‘Our Father in heaven,

hallowed be your name,..."

It may help, as you pray to investigate the following:

What does this mean to you? What does 'Hallowed' mean? What does it mean that He is our Father? What other names are there for Him? When you pray do you say, 'In Jesus Name'? Why? Do you address Him as Buddy Jesus, or as a respected figure in your life. What is your relationship status? Are you married to Him, in Relationship, friends, acquaintances? What other verses can you find that talk about addressing God? If someone would ask you about why you say the Lord's prayer, how would you answer them?

I start a new class this week: http://www.thelearntoletgoandgrowworkshops.com/About-Us.html

Stay tuned to see how it goes! :) Now onto my mission:

He is soo Cute!!

Mama-Nanny To the Rescue

WOW, time flies when you're having fun. Or at least attempting to have fun.

The last two weeks of March were sicky-ville for me and Owen. It was bad one too, but then again, aren't they all bad?? It was lovely to be able to stay at home with him to recuperate and spend some quality time.

Then last week I found out about OT! Woohhooo, hadn't work OT since last year so I was excited. My hubby was a super dad! He feed the kids, kept em quiet when I slept, helped with the never ending laundry, simply amazing! Then I found out that mom had helped too while watching the kids. Oh maybe I never told you guys about our set-up.

When I had Owen, my mom was working a job she was super stressed doing. So hubby and I calculated everything out and found that we could pay her what we would pay daycare to take care of the baby. We asked and she accepted. Since Owen was about 5 months old, my mom has been my Mama-Nanny! Which, for those out there that work full time and raise kids, it is nice when family can help take care of our bundles of joy! If you can do it-DO IT!!

I have LOTS of friends and family out there that believe women should stay home to raise their own kids and not expect others to raise their kids for them. I want you all to know I tried. I tried when Rachel was about 18 months. When she was first born, I could only stay home with her the traditional 6 weeks, then I had to go back to work. I was able to work part time, and found someone at church willing to watch her for me. We did that for about a year, when we were asked to move to OR. I quit my job and we moved to a little tiny winy town named Sutherlin. I was with that bundle of joy for a LONG time. I cleaned and played and played and cleaned. I disciplined and got sick of it. I was going to MOPS, bible study, out on day trips and found that I would clean, play and then be bored. So I would clean something else. The poor girl would get something out to play with and ten minutes later I would be yelling at her to clean it up. So I got a part time job. Finding someone to watch her was tough, and the job...well it didn't work out.

We moved back to the city and a month later I was working at the same company I am today. I am a better mom, now that I am working. My daughter is proud of me, she has the freedom to play and get into her stories. I am still a cleaning...ummm hound is a good word, but less. When I had Owen I got to stay home with him for four months! I ate it up. I was busy way more than I ever was in Sutherlin, and I could see myself staying home, but towards the end of my time there were afternoons where I was honestly bored. Sometimes that can be a good thing, but in my case...no. Hopefully when I am older, and my kids have kids, I will have the opportunity to be a Mama-Nanny, if they want me. In the mean time I am happy doing what I am doing, and I think my Mama-Nanny/Hubby are happy with where we are at!

Thanks  MOM,

Thanks Hubby!!